2am on a Tuesday, mid February, 2012.
I had just recorded two instrumental tracks now lost to time. I was sure that if I didn’t get them public Now, it would be too late. I paced the apartment, cried into the ether, convinced of my imminent mortality, freaked over the dichotomy between a perceived Love and Fear–no one Listening, no one Hearing. No one Caring. I begged the ghost in my apartment to help me. I collapsed.
Looking back, it’s still difficult to write about. All my words slip into each other, the quite vivid memories all roll together. There are minutes and hours and days I am unable to articulate, even as their recollection breeds concurrent thought. I can tell you about Lutheran Hospital and pacing around the psych ward at night until I fell to the floor in approximate sleep. I can offer you my hallucinatory ramblings written loudly in the margins of Kahlil Gibran’s The Prophet. I can speak to figuring out the motive of the doctors–gauge a reaction, that’s all it was to them. The institution was made to destroy something. I can still feel its insincerity. I can mangle the doctors’ words and twist them back on themselves, reach into my own split mind and deduce that They were not there to Help, just to stifle a feeling in the air. Medicine only knows so much. I had experienced death. Life could show me nothing more.
I couldn’t eat in the hospital in Cleveland. The food looked like plastic. The menus confused me–numbers where words should’ve been. I didn’t understand why I should eat anyway. To keep a dead thing alive? Alive for what? My supposed friends who had used me and left me completely? My family who was there and yet not making things better? I was always explaining myself in the hospital. Over and over and over explaining myself. Didn’t they listen to my music? Didn’t they know already? Hadn’t I already spelled it out? I was defining an age. We were in a post-Truth world. Reality was indefinite. Yet there I was proclaiming the truth. My truth.
Seven days. True to Genesis, I then rested. Medicated sleep. Cigarettes. Freedom. I kept saying I would do anything for it to never happen again. But by God, it would. And whose fault would it be? My own? God’s. The Son of God. The Sun God. The omnipotent forces of Love and Fear.
Weeks passed and I had no idea what to do next. So I fled. Ran like hell to the other side of the country. It didn’t last long. A few months of teetering on the edge were followed by toppling over it. Time was spent with my family again trying to do everything they could to help me. They were there for me this time, I know that now. They wanted to take me away, take me home, make me well. But I wanted freedom. I wanted to see existence. I wanted the Heavens to look down on me and smile that I Knew what others couldn’t Know. A bold bombast, a cuddle with expanding space, grabbing hold the present that for my entire life I didn’t fit with. If it had been another time, in another place, in another society, I could have been a shaman, a seer. At the same time a prisoner. A split mind can only be so much a part of this reality, I knew. But I was sure I was chosen. Sure I was the One. Sure that the Streets could be my home until my riches were dispersed. Sure of a love and clarity of purpose I still felt from my coming of age. My childhood a footnote to a present and future etched in the clouds. In billowing smoke consumed. A tale as old as Time. On some level, I wanted psychosis. It at least was mine. And mine alone.
I hit the streets of Portland just over a year after I had rested in Cleveland with the wrong medication. I knew I wasn’t well, but I wanted to figure it all out for myself. So that was that. I rebuked my family once more, decided no one would ever understand that I was more broken than diseased. One plus one was three. I was fascinated by my thoughts and visions. Deranged. Brilliant.
I busked for a time, ate when I could, screamed at the passersby ignoring my plight, and walked. Walked and walked and walked. Carried my guitar, a backpack filled with all my personal treasure, and a messenger bag with my life’s written work. I would lose that guitar too soon. The backpack too. No more busking. No more money. No more food. No more treasure. Still the writing. Still the walking. Still the talking out loud to no one, convinced the whole city could hear me, could see what I saw through the glasses I believed were cameras. I looked around for a woman whose name I never knew, whose hair changed colors with her moods. I was the One. I was Chosen. Love was all around. I was winning.
I think about all of this a lot. It really is difficult to describe. It’s more the feeling of it all. I was in a fight against the government, maybe. A fight against God Himself. The Age of Irony. I was looking for Peace in a time of perpetual War. Always war. Always. I was fighting for it to end. For all wrongs to be righted.
Without a home. Bumming cigarettes and not eating. Never eating. Walking. Walking. Eventually stealing food I knew I needed. Smoking cigarettes and stealing. Arrested, released, and still bumming smokes. Stealing some more. Hanging out all night at the gym. Finally taking a shower. Taking a shift at Panera and being given a meal. Being taken in by a shelter and given some clean clothes. Still walking. Riding the trains. Finding myself in parts of the city I thought were other dimensions. Trying to get help from the Church and finding their doors locked all night. Closed when I needed them. Furious at the hypocrisy of God’s House filled with money kept from those desperate for divinity. From those, like me, the rightful heirs to the fortune within.
I finally reached a breaking point I had flirted with for weeks. On a cold morning, frost in the air, I collapsed on the sidewalk ready to die. Ready to be taken from this world and transposed upon the next. To a world I had done nothing but imagine in my waking dreams. A paranoia worn thin. I was through being controlled by the Men In Hats who followed me everywhere. Through with the people I met in grocery store sitting areas, by fires unlit, in chairs in conversation. CIA agents, them all. The calvary of the Vatican. I was through with trying to unpack a Brotherhood I was so certain I was finding out. Just walking. Nowhere to sleep.
Not long after, the hospital again. Lutheran the first time a year prior in Cleveland, this time Providence in Portland. Crosses. Thousands of miles away, unrelated to each other but in the tactics practiced: fake faith, gauge a reaction. Find out why the mind ticks. I simultaneously wanted to live and to die. I had given myself up. I had made a mistake. Let me the fuck out of here! I demanded. Don’t kill me, please don’t kill me! Kill me! Kill me!
I accepted the medications eventually. Indeed, they experimented for weeks trying to find ones that worked. I played piano. I yearned for a cigarette but they wouldn’t even let me outside. It is patently infuriating and objectively counterintuitive that they don’t let you outside when you’re committed. Fresh Air reminds you that you’re alive. And there were times I just wasn’t sure.
I remember the other inmates. They scared me. Everyone scared me except the nurses. Even being tackled by security and forcibly shot with a sedative, I screamed that I loved them, that I loved life, please don’t kill me, don’t kill me! Kill me! Waking up in a different room and going right back to sleep. Hallucinating all sorts of sounds and images I can’t begin to describe. The days went by so slowly. Days stretched to weeks. I wanted to go outside. I wanted to go home. Until, finally, they let me. My family had saved me at last. And at last, I let them.
I moved to Maine. Lived with an Aunt and Uncle, just biding my time until I could get to someplace my own. Recovering. I wrote two songs in those three months. I chain smoked $2 packs of filtered cigars and read Vonnegut. I watched movies on VHS and tried to get organized. It was spring and then it was summer. It was hot. I was so tired. I had walked hundreds of miles in a few weeks’ time without much food or water, gotten committed to a psychiatric facility of my own choosing, and wrestled with the idea of a global conspiracy of various men in various hats trying to get into my mind to extract a knowledge singular to me. I was pretty sure there was something in there to find out about. Pretty sure I was some kind of prophet, hearing the Heavens speak to and through me for the good of whatever truth there is in this perceived reality.
The memories will always stay with me. I remember.
It is still those sights and sounds that infiltrate a life attached to a belief in a higher power. God speaks through the pen of certain artists who can’t control what words are written. So much of everything I’ve ever done–at least everything worth anything–I can’t explain where it came from. There is magic there. Like a psychedelic angel who was tugging on my hand. But the reality of life must at some point guide you just as much as the beyond. The Heavens are there to lend a hand, not to perform us a destination. There is no point in living in or for another world. We are in this one. So this one matters. And the CIA? Men in Hats? Can’t be.
With every period of my life leading somehow into the next there was always an otherworldly occurrence to catalyze an eventuality. I should have died multiple times in my life. I should’ve lost hope, lost stamina, lost the will to live a life granted me. I’ve wanted to die almost every day my entire life. With and without the pills. But the writing and the music have always brought me back to life. The divine a part of me. A part of all of us. A mother’s love. A looking glass sky.
I didn’t write for a long time when I got back to Cleveland. And the next couple years are odd to talk about. I spent a lot of time with my Aunt. Eventually grew The Supposed So catalog. Wrote, recorded, and released many many songs over many many releases. I wrote and self published books of poetry, essays, fiction. No one noticed. I drank a lot and smoked even more. I paced the streets sometimes but mostly just holed up, watched movies I got from the library, read and played guitar. I rehashed the past to myself. I wrote about it. I reconnected with friends I didn’t know I had. All while trying to forget everything I had done those three years before, all the ways that landed me in the hospital, to Portland and the street, walking and walking and just barely making it back to where it all began.
I could suddenly afford my bills. I could make art in a vacuum. I could write out my fear and love and place no importance on anything but my personal creation. I lost faith but didn’t need it. I was free.
Either way, life was happening to me. I didn’t really care how. It wasn’t for anyone but myself that I was doing anything. I dutifully took my medications. And self-medicated on top of it. One night stands. None of it really mattered. I was still wrestling with a recent past that I was deeply ashamed of, memories of what I said and did to loved ones that I wanted to go back and erase, or just to eternally apologize for, to make all those people understand that I was sick, that I was still sick. That I am still sick. It’s funny, there are days when I almost forget about it. There are days when I think of nothing else.
Life at its best begins and ends with love. Love is two parents and a child: one plus one equals three. Love is two souls together: one plus one equals one. Even without the math, the universe is ordered differently than most assume. Science can only tell us so much about existence. It is all worthless without the belief in something intrinsic. Something not bigger, not more important, not even something that controls anything, but something just apart from our understanding. Something that allows us to battle through ourselves until we find a way forward. Dealing with whatever might happen.
I remember a lot. More than I can say. More than makes sense. I remember battling with those psychedelic angels. I remember dealing God counted cards. In fooling Death, living became even more miraculous.
It is miraculous that Allie and I should meet one morning in a shared backyard. It is miraculous that we found so much to talk about. There were nights we talked for hours, late into the night. We shared time and space more genuinely than I had ever known. We understood each other.
That first year together was magic. We fell in love and stayed that way.
We watched as Cleveland melted away and New York City materialized before us. We moved in together without rolling the dice. I never felt like we were a gamble. I was sure I would always do anything to stay with her. Through anything. Through the first year of the first full time job of my life. Through teetering on the edge again. Through trying different medications. The decision to stop taking them altogether. And inevitably through psychosis.
By February (again February, always February) of 2018, I was indeed taking medication. I was going to the doctor. I was in and out of the hospital with an outpatient agreement and new medication. But what I failed to recall were the six weeks I spent in Portland when all those doctors tried to and found the right ones. In New York, it was all these other doctors acting on other assumptions, on circumstantial evidence and an approximate treatment plan they came to without observation. Putting me on meds that simply didn’t work. Or that made everything worse.
I holed up in our tiny apartment and chattered on again. Again thinking my every spoken word was being heard by the city. Again the Men in Hats.
Donald Trump was president. His stupidity, his idiocy, his war games, they all confused and infuriated me. I became convinced he was moments away from using the Bomb on North Korea. I screamed and wept for it all to stop. I responded to every sound of the city, every car horn, every passerby like it was all for me. The stars were fake. The Heavens disappeared.
I experimented with different doctors the way teenagers take acid, carefully, dutifully, hopefully toward somewhere true. But there was only the city. There was the train and all the people. And there was me, lost in the midst of it, certain that everyone knew who I was, that I was famous somehow. Not a prophet this time, just another in a long line of Men in Hats trying to save the world. Together with my Brothers I would declare war on sovereign soil where the story was. I kept my ear to the ground. I heard a lot.
Colors frightened me like they never had before. Once it had been numbers, now it was colors. I worked to blend my surroundings. I cleaned constantly.
Allie was always there. She never left me. Always cared. She was family. Our love was bigger than me, bigger than the two of us combined. One plus one equals one. Equals three.
New York would dissolve at some point. I came out the other side of the hospital with the right medication and the yearn to get the fuck out. I went back to school. More songs in order.
Gigging and recording and it all being ignored proliferates my history as The Supposed So. With everything I’ve done over the past many years, I have declared from time to time that I’ll never make another album, never write another anything. It doesn’t seem to matter. This is all bigger than me. Creating a body of work worth remembering is the only thing that matters for me and my art. The Supposed So’s discography tells my life’s story better than a few pages ever could. The music is real. It finds meaning in banal daily occurrence. Life as a series of missteps. We can’t forget to walk.
Allie and I were married on Saturday, July 23rd. With and without memories perhaps or perhaps not existing in this damaged brain, this split mind, it is Allie that is the truth. I love her more than life itself. I will always try to be a better person because we’re together. Because she and I are quite so lovely. As if it were all even possible.
I stumble. I am and will always be ill. But mental illness is just as fascinating as it is debilitating. There is always the simple act of setting words to music. There are six pages single spaced to correct. I am just what my history speaks. I am The Supposed So.